Years ago when I was losing 100 pounds (and before I found it again) I had a very smart mentor who said that people often asked her how to get motivated. Her reply was that getting 'motivated' isn't what you need to do. What you need to do is get 'important'. That stuck with me over all these years.
How important are you? I know why you take your kids to soccer. I know why you make a healthy snack when it's your week to be classroom Mom. I know why you work late to finish that project for your boss. You do all that because it's important. Those commitments are important.
What slides on your list when life gets hairy? I'd be willing to bet it's you. If you are like most women a lot of things on your to do list that feel like they outrank you in terms of importance. If you're finding that you are struggling with being 'motivated' to lose weight, exercise, save money, get organized... whatever it is... ask yourself when you're going to get important. And then listen for the answer.
This little bit of wisdom has worked for me every time I come back to it. When I get important, I go to bed early once in a while. I make sure that I make a nice salad for dinner more often than not. I make time for a relaxing bath where I soak as long as I want to. When I am not important, I give away everything I have. I give away every bit of energy, every bit of emotion, every bit of nurturing.
I am important. When I give it all away, I have nothing left to give to myself or to anyone else.
Join me in a challenge... why don't we work on this?... lets shorten the period of time where we allow ourselves to forget that we're important. No one is perfect, we will forget (I forget all the time!). We will also have periods of time that we have to focus on others at the expense of ourselves... but if we shorten those periods and lengthen the others we're bound to make some headway.
How will you know when you 'get important'? What looks different? Please share in the comments or on our facebook page here.
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