Saturday, January 18, 2014
Scrap paper wisdom: 3 steps and a really big question
Here's another bit of wisdom that's been up on my wall for a long time. Sometimes I have something up for so long that I begin to not even see it any more. I tend to rotate them and this is one that's been filed away for a while. I'm glad I found it again! Maybe it will speak to you. It's a pretty great bit strategy that works during a fight with my spouse, conflict at work or just when I'm feeling crummy about myself.
Step 1: What am I feeling? What are my body reactions? What am I telling myself about my ability to handle this situation? What is TRUE of my ability?
Step 2: What do I want from this situation or for myself? What is actually under my control? What is not under my total control? Am I willing to to accept the situation and my degree of control as it is?
Step 3: Focus on acting and feeling in a manner that is in your best interest. What feeling or quality (calm etc) could I express right now that would help me achieve my goal? What (self talk) would I be thinking if I were actually expressing that quality and getting what I want? What would I be doing?
And the big hairy question at the end of it all: Am I willing to do it?
Here's to being willing my friends...